Life can be difficult when you don’t know how to communicate with people. I used to be a shy person, and would have lots of trouble at large gatherings. I would turn down party invitations because I was afraid of saying the wrong thing and embarrassing myself. I changed this by finding a how to win friends and influence people summary. This made things a lot easier by turning me into a conversation starter and gave me the confidence to talk to more people without worrying about anything negative that could happen in the process.
My change didn’t happen in an instant. It was something that I had to work on for a while. I made small, incremental progress in my daily life by doing things that I wouldn’t normally do. Instead of sitting far away from people or standing, I would sit down on the bus. Whenever people asked me if I wanted to go somewhere where there would be more than a few people, I said yes. I even started asking questions to people about their lives and brought up current events that might get people talking. The more I did it, the more these actions seemed natural.
Now I do invitations to events before people have a chance to invite me. I contact people regularly and strike up a conversation with them for hours. I even talk to random people on the street that I’ve never met. Whenever I see someone new, I give them a hello. Sometimes the people respond back to me with a greeting, and sometimes they don’t, but that’s fine, because there will always be someone else to talk to down the road. When you talk to more people, people begin to see you in a more positive light, instead of as a shy hermit.